Who do you look like?

You know how people and their pets begin to look alike after some time? There is even some science to show that long-term married spouses begin to resemble one another. According to the article linked here, “when people mimic their spouses’ facial expressions, they also evoke the same emotions, thus empathizing all the better. ‘Facial mimicry allows a truer empathy because it triggers the same inner state,’’ Dr. Zajonc said. ‘Couples can understand each other much better when this happens.’”
I found an interesting verse today in 2 Kings 17:15. It was speaking about the apostasy of the people of Israel in that they left the worship of the true God and substituted idols. The verse says, “They went after false idols and became false”. Apparently, their mimicry triggered within them the same inner state. They were following something fake and so became fakers themselves.
Isaiah is so descriptive of the state of a person following something false, “He feeds on ashes; a deluded heart has led him astray, and he cannot deliver himself or say, “Is there not a lie in my right hand?” (Isaiah 44:20) The NIV says “is not this thing in my right hand a lie?”
What is this thing in my life that I am, consciously or not, spending so much time focusing on that I am mimicking it in my behavior or attitude? If I am only reflecting the culture and ideology (interesting how close that word is to “idol”) of the world around me, am I not in danger of becoming what it is?
I had a discussion recently with a young adult regarding being culturally relevant. How much of current media, movies, and music do I need to consume to be able to speak the “language” of this current generation? I do not have a good answer to that question. Sorry, if you were hoping for one. Partially, because I believe only God knows a person’s heart and can know how easily they will be influenced by what they are exposed to. Lest you accept that as a caveat to greater license remember Paul’s discussion with the Roman’s regarding dietary restrictions.
Romans 14:20 “Do not, for the sake of food, destroy the work of God. Everything is indeed clean, but it is wrong for anyone to make another stumble by what he eats. 21 It is good not to eat meat or drink wine or do anything that causes your brother to stumble. 22 The faith that you have, keep between yourself and God. Blessed is the one who has no reason to pass judgment on himself for what he approves.”
The obligation is always placed on the one without the “too sensitive” conscience to not become a stumbling block by what they feel they can do without guilt. However, note that last sentence carefully, “Blessed is the one who has no reason to pass judgment on himself for what he approves.”
In other words, we need to look in the mirror and watch ourselves! What are we mimicking of the world around us because of what we have approved? It’s not our job to judge others as being “too sensitive”. We have to pass judgment on ourselves, and that is not easy to do!

We know that as followers of Christ the standard for our behavior has to be Christlikeness. The only way to truly accomplish that is to keep Him forever in our focus so that His is the face we are mimicking.
Philippians 2: 4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. 5 Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, 6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, 7 but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.
How can we look out for the interests of others? Only by mimicking the mind of Christ.
How can we know God? 2 Corinthians 4:6 “For God, who said, ‘Let light shine out of darkness,’ has shone in our hearts to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ.”
The older I get- the more I want to look like the face of Jesus!

Renewed

It seems like all week long that I have been receiving notification via social media that another one of our former classmates has become a grandparent. This news, along with the announcement that our eldest son and his wife are expecting their second child, (YES!) has caused my mind to contemplate both the new and the old. So many beautifully brand-new little faces, happy young parents, and beaming grandparents; new life is an overwhelming time of wonder and joy. However, the fact that these same GRANDPARENTS, my friends and former classmates, are the ones struggling with what affectionately appropriate name should they be called now that they have a grandchild, can be somewhat alarming. We don’t want to be old; we don’t feel old, but we have to face that fact; we are definitely not “new”!

Thinking along this line brought to mind the words of Paul in 2 Corinthians 4:16, “16 So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day.”

Well, maybe we are not to the point where we are ready to admit to “wasting away”, but I really like the idea that whatever happens on the outside, inwardly we can be RE-newed every day.

I can have a brand new me inside day by day. Paul was not referring to the new-birth or salvation experience in that scripture. He was speaking to believers and even to those who were struggling with persecution and trouble all around them. So, in spite of whatever was happening outside they could be new within their own souls. But how? 

Two other scriptures give us more specific insight into this process of renewal.

Ephesians 4:22-24 describes it almost as if describing getting dressed.

22 to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, 23 and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, 24 and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.”

Obviously there is some spiritual cognitive therapy happening because the renewal comes in the “spirit of your minds.”

How? Colossians 3:1-17 is one of the most detailed descriptions of our part in this renewal.

 Seek the things that are above by setting your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. Then just in case that is too theoretical, he brings it down to VERY practical, on the concrete, daily living.

Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.”

“now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth.” “Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices”

Those are some strong phrases, but it is not all negative.  Change is difficult if behaviors and thinking patterns are just removed. Something will need to take the place of the negative and Paul has the answer again.

12 Put on then …compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience,

13 bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.

14 And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.

15 And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful.

16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.

 17 And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”

Out with the old- in with the new! This is not about a “works” based religion. Remember in both of the passages Paul is speaking to followers of Christ. Colossians 3:7 says, “In these you too once walked, when you were living in them. But now you must put them all away”

One of the best statements I have heard all year is “Grace is not opposed to effort, but to earning.” Our salvation is the free gift of God, but if we want to be renewed every day then, we need to get busy and quit waiting for God to smite us with Christlikeness!

Put to death! Put away! Then…

Put on, bearing with, forgiving, love, be thankful!

Verse 16 is the pivotal point- stay in the WORD, surround yourself with good God music (apparently even Paul made allowance for differing music tastes, you got your psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs), and keep an attitude of gratitude.   

Finally do everything is Jesus name. In other words, if you cannot do whatever you are about to do, in a way that honors the name of Jesus, do not do it!

I want to be re-newed today, tomorrow, the next day. You will never know it to look on the outside of all of us grandmothers and grandfathers, but inside some of us will be getting “newer” every day!