In a wonderful old
romantic comedy called How to Steal a
Million, featuring the recently deceased Peter O’Toole and Audrey Hepburn; the
hero states, “the code word is togetherness!”
That thought has
been on my mind all this holiday season; not just because we have guests who
are brave enough to cram into our little apartment here for a visit, but also
because having family here is what makes it Christmas for me. My love language
is time spent together. So even though fixing Christmas dinner is an exercise
in juggling and gymnastics in my miniscule kitchen, the fact that I was fixing
it with my daughter’s help made it a meaningful memory for me.
God was in favor of togetherness. He sent us at Christmas, Emmanuel, God with us. I want to remember that this year, no matter how cramped and uncomfortable my circumstances; He is with me. That means love to me! The God who so wanted to be close to us that He sent His spirit to live within us said,
John
14:16-20 (ESV)
16 And
I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, to be with you
forever, 17 even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot
receive, because it neither sees him nor knows him. You know him, for he dwells
with you and will be in you.
18 “I
will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you. 19 Yet a
little while and the world will see me no more, but you will see me. Because I
live, you also will live. 20 In that day you will know that I
am in my Father, and you in me, and I in you.
That is what I
call TOGETHERNESS!
Merry Christmas
everyone! May you come to know Emmanuel; remember the code word is
togetherness!
Anytime you title something like this, some men cannot
resist reading. You know who you are- now go away; you will just be bored and
disrupt the class!
There are many places in the world where women are
still oppressed and marginalized if not blatantly abused. I was reminded this
week as I read the Christmas story how different it is with God. God
understands women and their needs. This is apparent from the moment Gabriel
announced the birth of Christ to Mary and throughout the life and ministry of
Jesus. In particular, I was impressed as I read Gabriel’s announcement that God
understood Mary needed a friend. Joseph would need divine intervention before
he could overcome his male ego and wounded pride; he certainly was not in a
place where he could be supportive. He may have even been worried about her
sanity with all the talk of angel visitations, thinking, “You know, maybe I
should just have her ‘put away’.”
What is a girl to do?
Gabriel gave her a hint…Elizabeth understands that nothing is impossible
with God; she is also going through a divine moment in her life. That was all
the encouragement Mary needed. Yes, Elizabeth was family, but God was also
preparing her to be the friend Mary would need.
What made Elizabeth the perfect example of whom to
turn to in a crisis?
Several things are apparent in the scripture. She was
“6 righteous before God, walking blamelessly in all the
commandments and statutes of the Lord”. (Luke 1 ESV) We need to know that our
friend is in touch with God and able to give Godly counsel.
She also had held on to her faith in spite of a great
trial in her life. Her faith in God had been tested by years of infertility. “7 But they had no child, because Elizabeth was
barren, and both were advanced in years.” Hers was a tested mature faith that
had held on to God even though she had not received what she so desperately
wanted. She must have loved God for Himself and not for what she could get from
Him. A friend who will help you to remain strong in faith is invaluable.
She knew how to keep a secret, even
one that overwhelmed her with wonder and joy. “24 After these days his wife Elizabeth
conceived, and for five months she kept herself hidden, saying, 25 “Thus
the Lord has done for me in the days when he looked on me to take away my
reproach among people.” We all need another woman we can trust with our
burdens, secrets, even our shame.
God even gave Elizabeth confirmation that Mary’s child
was of God. What a tremendous gift that was to Mary! Then Elizabeth could give
Mary her full support with no small doubt in her mind. Mary desperately needed someone who would
believe her, and believe in her. “Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb!
43 And why is this granted to me that the
mother of my Lord should come to me?” What strength it must have given Mary to
know that Elizabeth believed she could be the mother of the “Lord”.
Elizabeth was not swayed from her
commitment to the word of God by public opinion; as when she refused to give in
to pressure when it came time to name John. “59 And on the
eighth day they came to circumcise the child. And they would have called him
Zechariah after his father, 60 but his mother answered,
“No; he shall be called John.” 61 And
they said to her, “None of your relatives is called by this name.” Who better
to stand with Mary against the pressure she would face, then someone who could
truly believe the confirmation God gave her?
For three months, you know those
first three months when morning sickness makes you think you are going to die,
Mary was in a safe place. She was cared for and caring for someone who
understood. What a gift from the God who understands what a woman needs!
Do you need an Elizabeth in your life?
Ask God to give you a suggestion, like Gabriel did for Mary.
For 400 years between the Old and New Testament, people waited in hope for a promised Messiah. The concept of waiting in hope seems so much a part of Christmas. As a child growing up in a western culture, anticipation of Christmas was half the fun. Advent calendars counted down the days as we waited in hope for the joy of Christmas Day.
God seemed to realize how difficult it would be for us to maintain a hopeful spirit in our times of waiting, and so throughout his word he spoke of our need for courage and strength as we wait.
Psalm 27:14 (AMP) Wait and hope for and expect the Lord; be brave and of good courage and let your heart be stout and enduring. Yes, wait for and hope for and expect the Lord.
Psalm 31:24 (AMP) Be strong and let your heart take courage, all you who wait for and hope for and expect the Lord!
God also seemed to recognize the depth of the agony of spirit we can experience as David spoke in Psalm 42:5 (AMP). 5 Why are you cast down, O my inner self? And why should you moan over me and be disquieted within me? Hope in God and wait expectantly for Him, for I shall yet praise Him, my Help and my God.
In the beautiful way that the New Testament seems to answer the heart cries of the Old, Romans 8:24-26 (ESV) seems it could have been written specifically to address the need David expressed.
24 For in this hope we were saved. Now hope that is seen is not hope. For who hopes for what he sees? 25 But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience.
26 Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.
What have you been waiting for that seems to have developed into an inner moan? The Spirit understands that you do not even know how to pray anymore, and He will take that need to the Father with groaning too deep for words. In the meantime, watch for those signs of God at work. In other words, engage in being hopeful. I love the words of Sarah Groves’s song, It Might be Hope.
You do your work the best that you can You put one foot in front of the other Life comes in waves and makes its demands You hold on as well as your able
You’ve been here for a long long time Hope has a way of turning its face to you Just when you least expect it You walk in a room You look out a window And something there leaves you breathless You say to yourself It’s been a while since I felt this But it feels like it might be hope It’s hard to recall what blew out the flame It’s been dark since you can remember You talk it all through to find it a name As days go on by without number You’ve been here for a long long time Hope has a way of turning its face to you Just when you least expect it You walk in a room You look out a window And something there leaves you breathless You say to yourself It’s been a while since I felt this But it feels like it might be hope
What does it
mean to take offense? Various online dictionaries define it as follows:
To feel (and usually to show) emotional pain
and resentment at another’s actions or words.
Confession
time, I recently took offense when someone’s behavior triggered some painful
memories for me. How could he act that way? He seemed to be intentionally
inflicting emotional pain, and I resented it deeply. I guess I am in good
company; the disciples even took offense with Jesus when He began to teach them
things they did not want to hear. John 6:60-61
60 When many of his disciples heard it, they said, “This is a
hard saying; who can listen to it?” 61 But Jesus, knowing in
himself that his disciples were grumbling about this, said to them, “Do you
take offense at this?
So what would have been the better
response on my part in dealing with the offense? How could I keep my heart clean of the dark
film that resentment would bring? Surely, bitterness must be the next step
beyond resentment.
Solomon seems to say that we have a
choice; we can use love to cover the offense, overlook it, not share it with
others, and above all keep calm. (He was a wise man…)
Proverbs
10:12 Hatred stirs up strife, but love
covers all offenses.
Proverbs
17:9 Whoever covers an offense
seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends.
Proverbs
19:11 Good sense makes one slow to anger,
and it is his glory to overlook an offense.
Ecclesiastes
10:4 If the anger of the ruler rises
against you, do not leave your place, for calmness will lay great offenses
to rest.
Basically, offenses will come to us.
We will be offended by the words and actions of other. Offenses will come, but
we do not have to “take” them into ourselves. The hurtful comments do not have
to find a place in our identity. I can choose to let love cover the offense by
believing the person was only acting out of the hurt he was feeling. (See Hurting People)
I can choose not to “take” the
offense to others thereby spreading the resentment. Again, a choice
characterized as seeking love.
The offense can be overlooked if I
choose not to “take” it into my view of the person so that all my future
encounters with this person are colored by this event.
Mainly, I need to keep calm, give the hurt to the Healer, and find a place of rest in my spirit through forgiveness.